I offer workshops specifically for patrilineal Jews who want to solidify their confidence in their own Jewish identity. I ask those who are confident to share ideas and strategies that helped them reach this secure place.
Jeffrey, a gentleman in his 60’s had this wisdom to offered.
Very briefly, as a patrilineal Jew, what I would say is this: if you want to be Jewish and to be accepted as such, educate yourself. Serious ongoing study of Judaism is incredibly enriching, and it is definitely respected in the Jewish world. The other thing is to hang out primarily with Jews who are inclusive and accepting. Join such a community. Be an active learner, committee member, etc. Acceptance (and self-acceptance) will arise…then, the slights, which are probably inevitable, are just that: slight, i.e. insignificant. The other thing is to do your own psychological work…face and dispel pernicious shame.