(This first appeared in my Mixed and Matched column in the J-Weekly, Monday June 9, 2021) Dear Dawn: I am Jewish and planning my wedding to a non-Jewish man. I have not been very involved in Judaism since my bat mitzvah almost 20 years ago. I don’t want to have a rabbi, but I want to…Read More »
Mixed & Matched
How do I know if Judaism is the right new faith for me?
(This is a letter from my Mixed and Matched column of May 14, 2015) I was raised Christian and had terrible experiences in my church, including abuse. I am still a spiritual person and want a faith community. I married a Jewish guy who is very low-key about religious practice but does belong to a…Read More »
How can I get my dad to help me deal with my patrilineal status?
(This article originally appeared in my J-weekly column, Mixed and Matched on September 28, 2021) Dear Dawn: My mom was raised noncommittal Christian and my dad was raised noncommittal Jewish. Around the time I was born, my dad was exploring Judaism and he wanted to raise me, and later my little brother, as Jews. My parents…Read More »
Issue of Patrilineal Descent Raises some more Questions
(This column for Mixed and Matched in the J-weekly originally appeared May 4, 2021) I was delighted by the many responses to my April column, “At a loss after my rabbi said I’m not allowed to read Torah.” Let’s walk through the concerns that were raised. One man wrote, “You need to tell the Conservative…Read More »
I’m tired of my fellow Jews insulting my Orthodoxy
(This letter originally appeared in my Mixed and Matched column in the J-weekly on April 14, 2021) Dear Dawn, I am from an interfaith family; my dad isn’t Jewish. I was raised and identify as Orthodox. Jews assume that it must be OK to criticize Orthodox Jews to my face. When they realize they are…Read More »
Is it reasonable to expect to marry my Orthodox boyfriend?
(This letter originally appeared in my Mixed and Matched column for the J-weekly on Nov. 17, 2020) Dear Dawn: Can I first say how impactful and helpful I have found your writing? I am a non-Jew in a relationship with a Jewish man. I love him, and his Orthodox identity is a big part of…Read More »