(A recent letter for my Mixed and Matched column in the J weekly.) Dear Dawn In the past you have said that a Jew shouldn’t make the High Holiday services the very first Jewish service that their non-Jewish partner experiences. But last year my observant Christian boyfriend loved Yom Kippur. He said he likes it…Read More »
Why aren’t Jews as warm and welcoming as Christians?
A Mixed and Matched column first published in the J weekly March of 2017. My boyfriend was raised Presbyterian and is agnostic now. I feel like a lot of Jews are agnostic and he should be comfortable in a synagogue. However, when we go to shul, I feel like the people are not as warm…Read More »
Focus on your Love of Judaism, not your Discomfort with other Traditions
I love to share the personal reflections and experiences of individuals from interfaith families. I spotted this article in a synagogue newsletter and contacted the writer for permission to post it here. Learn to embrace and love Jewish activities instead of focusing on the non-Jewish divide By Lisa Fernandez Many of you might already know….Read More »
How to tell people you’re perfectly fine without Christmas
I wrote the opinion piece for the J-Weekly because so many Jews told me they felt pressured to embrace Christmas. Please expand your idea of what other people “should” like. Growing up without a formal religion in the United States can lead many people to insist, “I have no religion. I’m certainly not a…Read More »
Hanukkah & Christmas: Is it a Dilemma?
Hanukkah and Christmas – the “December dilemma”. I never liked that term “dilemma”. Not that there isn’t an element of difficulty for an interfaith household, but the word made it seem so dire. I think I would prefer, December Questions, because it all boils down to a lot of questions. The core one being, how…Read More »
Are the High Holy Days a good time to introduce my non-Jewish boyfriend to Jewish services?
This common question for this time of year came to me via my Mixed and Matched column in the Jweekly. I am getting serious about my boyfriend (who is not Jewish) and I want him to understand what’s important to me about being Jewish. I’m thinking that this year I should take him with me…Read More »