(This letter originally appeared in my Mixed and Matched column in the J-weekly on April 14, 2021) Dear Dawn, I am from an interfaith family; my dad isn’t Jewish. I was raised and identify as Orthodox. Jews assume that it must be OK to criticize Orthodox Jews to my face. When they realize they are…
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At a loss after my rabbi said I’m not allowed to read Torah
Dear Dawn: My dad is my Jewish parent and I was raised Reform. Being a “patrilineal Jew” was never discussed in my shul. My dad did tell me more traditional Jews wouldn’t accept me as Jewish, but honestly he seems more angry than helpful. In college I learned more about my status as I was…
Read More »Growing up in an interfaith family shouldn’t be a barrier to Judaism
(This opinion piece originally appeared in the J-weekly on May 20, 2016) I’m looking forward to the “Growing Up Interfaith” conference. It’s still a bit uncomfortable to reveal that I am a so-called patrilineal Jew, but maybe it’s time for more of us to come out. I’m turning 50 this year, and it took…
Read More »My dad is 100% Jewish, but I’m scared to enter a synagogue
(This article originally appeared in my Mixed and Matched column in the J-weekly on June 7, 2019) Dear Dawn: My father is 100 percent Jewish and my mother is Christian. They tried to have an interfaith wedding in the ’70s and the Jews wouldn’t accept them. Unfortunately, my father turned his back on Judaism and…
Read More »It hurt to learn I wasn’t considered Jewish or Christian
(This first appeared in my Mixed and Matched column in the J-weekly on May 15, 2019) Dear Dawn: My father is my Jewish parent and my parents did not raise me and my siblings with either of their religions. Instead they exposed us to the traditions of both. As an adult, I learned that in a…
Read More »I love Christmas, I hate Christmas
(This article originally appeared in my Mixed & Matched column in the J-weekly on 12/1/15) My mom is Jewish, my dad is Christian. Mom never had much interest in Judaism, and my brother and I were raised secular, with holidays from both our parents’ traditions. I’ve always been pulled to my Jewish side, and I…
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