
So often we will do for our children things we don’t make the effort to do for ourselves, no matter how valuable. Recently I read a string of emails on the Berkeley Parents Network in response to a mother asking for help in building a community for her child. One mom replied that she has lived in the bay area 12 years and has made no ongoing friends since finishing college. She wisely says, “I think ideally community for children would extend naturally from a community that you join for reasons other than kids.”
Are you familiar with these stages of expectation?
As a new mom, won’t I meet & bond with other moms in a mom’s group?
At the preschool stage, surely here we’ll bond with other parents at the preschool.
Or school age, we’ll go to PTA meetings and make friends with the other parents.
But the years slip away and we may or may not make a circle of friends that form “a community.”
Community forms when people have a common goal, repeated interaction, and a commitment to be mutually sustaining. It takes time to bond. And it takes more, it takes that a common goal.
The advantage to being Jewish is that joining a JCC or a synagogue is not about your religious beliefs. You can believe or not in God, in the story of the bible, heaven, reincarnation, souls, global warming. To quote one rabbi, “Jews have one God… or fewer.” After that you’ll basically buying into the idea that people are better off together than apart.
A synagogue or JCC has the structure to sustain and nurture their existing community, you just get on board.
How? It still takes time and commitment because you are creating a relationship. You have to BE PRESENT – it could be attending Shabbat services, joining the Men’s baseball team, baking for the oneg (reception after services), singing in the choir, serving on a committee, taking a class. In the midst of these activities you will meet people, laugh, eat, sing, and develop a relationship. They will care for you because you care about them.
Summer is a great time to cruise the options. Call if you need help planning your exploration.
EVENTS
Saturday Night SplashDowns (Walnut Creek)
Wrestling with God: Homosexuality in Jewish Tradition (Berkeley)
Tot Shabbat (Redwood City)
Celebrate Pride at the LGBT Pride Parade (San Francisco)
First Friday Night Potluck & Shabbat Service (San Leandro)
Pool Party! (Walnut Creek)
The Outdoor Sanctuary (San Rafael)
Torah for Tots (Palo Alto)
Baby Shabbat (Palo Alto)
Kalman’s World: Celebrating Art of the Everyday (San Francisco)
Let’s go to the Movies: Saviors in the Night (Berkeley)
ONGOING
Saturday Night SplashDowns
At the JCC Aquatics Complex!
Saturdays are perfect for spending a day with the family! Why not join us at the JCC Aquatics Complex this summer? Bring a picnic dinner and enjoy a pool-side evening with your family and friends! We’ll provide the tables, chairs, and barbecue grill — you provide the rest (including the charcoal). Just let us know in advance and we’ll have the barbecue ready for you to use! Seating is first-come, first-served.
For more information e-mail aquatics@ccjcc.org, or call (925) 938-7800, ext. 229.
Contra Costa Jewish Community Center, 2071 Tice Valley Blvd. Walnut Creek
www.ccjcc.org
Wrestling with God: Homosexuality in Jewish Tradition
Scholar-in-Residence Shabbat with Rabbi Steven Greenberg
Rabbi Steven Greenberg is Director the National Jewish Center for Learning and Leadership Diversity Project. Steve is the first openly gay Orthodox rabbi and a founder of the Jerusalem Open House, the Holy City’s GLBT community center. He appeared in Trembling Before G-d, a documentary about gay and lesbian Orthodox Jews and in 2001 joined the film maker, Sandi Simcha DuBowski in carrying the film across the globe as a tool for dialogue and community organization. In 2004 he finished a decade long project, a book entitled, Wrestling with God and Men: Homosexuality in the Jewish Tradition, which explores biblical, rabbinic, medieval and contemporary Jewish responses to same-sex relationships (University of Wisconsin Press.) In 2005 the book was awarded the Koret Jewish Book Award for Philosophy and Thought. Recently, Steve was in a new documentary on Christianity and Homosexuality entitled: For the Bible Tells Me So. He is also the scholar in residence for two cutting edge organizations, Hazon, a Jewish Environmental organization, and Keshet, an organization dedicated to GLBT inclusion in the larger Jewish community.
Date: June 25 & 26, 2010
Place: Netivot Shalom, 1316 University Ave., Berkeley
Check all the details for services and lectures on Netivot Shalom’s website, www.netivotshalom.org
Tot Shabbat
Supervised Shabbat-friendly play, indoors and outdoors (weather permitting), with a Tot Shabbat service starting at about 10:45 a.m. Tot Shabbat child care runs 9:00 a.m. thru the end of services, for ages 2.5 to 8. No prior registration or payment required.
Date: Saturday, June 26
Time: 9:00 am
Place: Congregation Beth Jacob, Redwood City, in the School Wing
Celebrate Pride at the LGBT Pride Parade
As is our tradition, Temple Sinai will have a contingent marching in the Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, Transgender Pride Parade. Exact information (time, location, contingent #) will be announced on in future emails and on our website (http://www.oaklandsinai.org). We will meet at approximately 10am in downtown San Francisco. The parade kicks off at Market & Beale Streets.
Date: Sunday, June 27
Place: San Francisco
Temple Sinai welcomes members and non-members to march with us.
Please contact the Temple Office at (510) 451-3263 if you have any additional questions.
First Friday Night Potluck & Shabbat Service
Join us for a fun dinner and service, kids are most welcome. The service begins at 6:30 p.m. It is a special child-friendly service.
For families whose last names begin with A-M, please bring fresh fruit, for about 6 people, especially watermelon! For families whose last names begin with N-Z, please bring PAREVE cake or cookies, for about 6 people – that means the dessert contains no dairy products.
Cost is $10 for adults, $5 for kids aged 6 to 13, kids under 5, free! Value can’t be beat. Have your money ready for collection so no work is involved.
Date: July 2
Time: Service begins at 6:30pm
Place: Temple Beth Sholom, 642 Dolores Ave., San Leandro
It is quite a fun event, so please RSVP today at 510.357.8505. Your reservation guarantees you a place at the table. Space is limited and this is a popular activity.
Pool Party!
Beth Chaim is having a pool part at the JCC! Bring towels, umbrellas, toys for the kids and yourself; to swim, eat and have loads of fun! Please RSVP by July 6 so that we can get a good count of attendees. We want you to come and have a good time! We want all congregants, friends and family!
Date: Sunday, July 11
Time: 1:00PM – 5pm
Place: Contra Costa JCC, 2071 Tice Valley Blvd., Walnut Creek
Info: Call 925-736-7146
Hosted by Beth Chaim, 1800 Holbrook Dr., Danville
www.bethchaim.com
The Outdoor Sanctuary
Shabbat in Nature
Does being in nature make you feel connected to something bigger? Come and celebrate Shabbat outdoors this summer at China Camp State Park. We will be there at 5:30 pm and services will begin at 6 pm. All you need to do is bring your blanket, some lawn chairs, a picnic dinner, your readiness to participate, and a dessert to share. We’ll bring the challah.
Directions: We will be picnicking and praying at China Camp Village, just down the road from Rodef Sholom (4.6 miles), on the upper grass meadow adjacent to the parking lot and above the water. There will be a small fee for parking.
Date: Friday, July 16, Aug. 20
Time: 6pm
Place: China Camp State Park
Sponsored by Congregation Rodef Sholom, 170 North San Pedro Rd., San Rafael
For more information call the synagogue at 415- 479-3447
www.rodefsholom.org
Torah for Tots
Join us for a service and a small, kid-friendly kiddush (reception) in Room 5/6. Guests are always welcome… feel free to drop by!
We hope to see families with children ages 2 to 5 years old.
Dates: Saturdays, July 17 & 24, Aug 14 & 21
Time: 11:15am to noon
Place: Kol Emeth, 4175 Manuela Ave., Palo Alto
www.kolemeth.org
Baby Shabbat
Please join us for singing and movement for little ones in a joyful Jewish context. Take a break from the courtyard and spend some time with your little ones and their friends. For babies (birth – 24 months) and their parents. (Please bring a small blanket for your child to sit on.) Followed by kiddush and parent schmooze with our Rabbis.
Dates: Saturdays, July 17 & Aug. 15
Time: 12:10 – 12:40pm during Shabbat Kiddush, in Room 5
Place: Kol Emeth, 4175 Manuela Ave., Palo Alto
For more information, contact Kara at littleones@kolemeth.org.
Kalman’s World: Celebrating Art of the Everyday
For Families
Bring the whole family to this free day at the CJM centered around the exhibition Maira Kalman: Various Illuminations (of a Crazy World).
Tour the Museum, including Maira Kalman
Design your own Kalman-inspired totes and handmade buttons
Enjoy the everyday genius of “Yes Sweet Can,” in a performance by San Francisco’s Sweet Can Productions, featuring dancing brooms, balancing teacups, and stairways to the sky!
Date: Sunday, July 18
Time: looks like it’s 11am to 4pm
Place: Contemporary Jewish Museum, 736 Mission St., San Francisco
Free
For more information email info@thecjm.org
Let’s go to the Movies: Saviors in the Night
Hey everyone! Let’s go see “Saviors in the Night” at the SF Jewish Film Festival. Saviors is a true story about a German Catholic family who hid a Jewish family during the Holocaust.
Go online and buy your ticket at: www.sfjff.org
How about meeting at 5pm for a quick pizza around the corner from the theater? Email me if you want to join me for dinner before the film.
Date: August 7
Time: 7pm
Place: Roda Theater, Berkeley Rep, 2025 Addison, Berkeley
Info: Contact me at 510-845-6420 x11 or email me at dawn@buildingjewishbridges.org
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